First-generation student Q&A: Joy Parr McGrath

First-Generation College Celebration Day is recognized every year on Nov. 8. This year, Randolph is celebrating first-gen students all week long and will hold an induction ceremony for Tri-Alpha, which celebrates the academic accomplishments of first-generation college students, on Wednesday, Nov. 5. 

As we prepare for the ceremony, we will be profiling some of Randolph’s first-generation students.

Joy Parr McGrath, Director of International Programs & Services

Hometown: Roseland, VA (located in Nelson County)

College(s) attended: Roanoke College, 1990, BA but had an extra senior year; Appalachian State, 1999, MA

Major(s): Urban studies and higher education administration, respectively

What does it mean to you to be a first-generation student?

That despite obstacles, you can graduate from college. Never quit and persevere!

What are your memories of being a first-gen student?

My parents attended college, but neither graduated. I could never understand why they didn’t and just assumed it was typical of their generation. I wanted to be able to tell my own children how important a college degree would be to them.

Looking back, what were some of the biggest challenges you faced—and how did you navigate them?

I didn’t advocate for myself. I started as a math major until I got to Calculus III. The dean of the college was teaching the class, and I’ll never forget him putting my first graded test on my desk. It was an F. My first failing grade EVER! After meeting with him, he suggested I switch my major to business since I liked numbers and people. Big mistake! I was drowning in confusion because it did not click with me. 

I’ll never forget the time my mother and I drove to campus to withdraw. We were both crying as my accounting professor just watched. As soon as we entered the Registrar’s Office, the registrar, Leah Russell, pointed at me and said, “I have a solution for you to stay. Change your major to urban studies, which has lots of sociology and public administration classes, AND go part-time to bring up your grades.” I was a tour guide, so I knew many of the staff members, and I credit Leah heavily for helping me get my undergraduate degree. 

Why hadn’t I explored this option sooner? Because I hadn’t spoken up for myself. I waited so long that I almost flunked out of college! 

How did your experience as a first-gen student shape your path after graduation? 

I knew if I wanted to stay in higher education that I would need to get a graduate degree. I procrastinated for years to take the next step to graduate school. This terrified me knowing what happened with my undergraduate studies, BUT after seven years of work, I began my graduate degree and sailed through it—loving every single minute.

How does being a first-gen graduate influence the way you support or connect with current students?

I can completely relate to the obstacles they may have experienced, especially when it deals with academics. 

What do you wish someone had told you when you were a first-year student?

It’s okay to say no. As much as I encourage students to step out of their comfort zone and try new things, don’t overdo it. And don’t be afraid to ask for help! Get those tutors and utilize the writing lab. 

What advice would you give other first-gen students?

Know that there are so many people on this campus who will support you, so don’t be afraid to share. Persevere and don’t quit! I was ready to quit (take a break), but someone was looking out for me and explained an option that I NEVER would have known about. Between working in the admission office, alumni office, and the development office as a student, I shared lots with the staff. They took care of me and gave me advice. 

What message would you give to your younger self, just starting college for the first time?

Research your major and the careers that are available in that major.

What makes Randolph special?

I love how we have safety nets in place for students should they get low grades. It is addressed sooner rather than later. There truly is someone here that genuinely cares about you and your success.